Friday 17 February 2017

A SHAVIAN Golden Rule for Facebook....Need/needed?



A Fine Art from Sudha Ma'am's home
I am not getting a proper answer at all for this query.. Are all the facebook friends known to us? Some people do hold the grand view that 'if we dont know each other, becoming friends by fb will only remain as stranger'. I thought for a while - In that case do we know the 'real friend' in a friend who are known to us directly? As my interaction today with the movie maker Suda Mehta maam has rightly pointed out that whether we know or do not know, all are strangers in a way.That really made sense as people known and unknown remain as a mystery without giving a chance to uncover the dubious nature. Let me cite an incident which made me feel pity for my own self.A lady amazingly charming for the usual men folk sent me a request some months back.I did not accept.She messaged me later.I asked whether she knows me.She addressed me as moley(daughter) and replied that she has liked my way of writing and she seemed to have some literary taste.Later she said a sentence not to accept her if I don't feel comfortable though she is a lady.I accepted and she fills my inbox most of the times.I often feel and know that I disturb people with my talking sense and non-sense.She got to know from my profile that I have good contacts with many people as I work for the Kerala State Chalachitra Academy and do freelance journalism as well.She asked some queries and clarified that as the way she liked with proofs.Gradually I got to know that she started making many of my fb friends as her friends too including an uncle of mine.I dont feel bad as she is that charming in her fb pics.Now coming to the point- I called her once just to talk and know about something known to her.After all,she is that loving by her 'chweet messages- molu, tk,all the best da and all'.When I called her,she was not able to recognise me as there are many fb friends in my name.I understood one thing some people will behave like a typical mallu only no matter whether they are implanted to any other soil.She questioned me as if she were a police officer.At the last -ok, da and all.So the moral of the story- some people make friends only with a hidden agenda and never well wishers but can be evil doers.I have not deleted as my story cum body guard juniors becchas told not to do such an act of blocking or unfriending because in that we have to block many blocks from life day by day.Why I told this story today is I got a new message from a sweet young girl today as she needs my help in connection with some university courses.She has made a junior of mine a friend by now and commented on his photo tagging me- please check your inbox. My dear Utsav beccha- please do tell your new friend to contact somebody worth talented and helpful and captive by looks too.Let the comment be there in your pic but I am not gona respond, beccha. Many instances like this have happened a lot by now just to make me a fool at the end. I guess Abdul sir knows the live editions of many stories I dont wish to be a scapegoat for people who know us only for their needs and dont even recognise us with a smile when their needs are done whether its is a faculty,student or the so called mallu community.I wish to remain as a Shakespearean fool in my life devoid of motley in brains too. hehe.As my utmost loving Father always says. if you a do a favour once, its just a favour.But if you do more than once, it becomes your duty. Although Achan said it many a times, his daughter is still not relieved from that first state of favour.I am always ready to do things and help from my limited knowledge and capability.Now like Seamus Heaney 'I mourn for myself( Aparna),she is dying, alas! who is killing her?
 Anakha Ajith- The doors which I knock remain closed forever.May be I choose to knock at the wrong doors only?hehehe.Still, I love and I am in love with those weirdness of camels coming for the sake of heaven. Farha Khatun- Thanks a lot for introducing me to such a wonderful woman.Thanks a ton, my Kutty♥ really loved her and met her finally putting an end to the unseen unknown phone contacts and mails.Some strangers can and we do take them to our heart and vice versa.I have travelled both roads of strangers by now.wanna travel lot more!